Who Do I Think I Am?

Dating and the Confident Girl Recently, I caved to my curiosity and installed Tinder on my phone, just to see “how bad can this really be?” — as it turns out, I quite like the interface, and it wasn’t too difficult to figure out some of the flaws (fake accounts and time-wasters) as well as the perks (just unmatch and POOF gone). But, yet again, here I was faced with writing yet another bio. Who Continue Reading →

Goodbye Dale

It’s been a week now and I still can’t really believe it. My brother had a heart attack on the 10th of May and while his heart was repaired, complications ultimately led to his death. I’ve thought about a lot of deaths — anticipating my parents’, imagining the loss of friends, considering my spouse’s when I was married, even thinking about my own. Of all the deaths I’ve ever considered, Dale’s was one scenario I Continue Reading →

Slowgress

I realized today that my YearOfYes hit the one year mark last month and I need to stop looking for things to do. The start of this year has been especially top-heavy with commitments and I am wearing out. Meanwhile, my word of the year is “complete” and I look around to see very little actually completed. My knitting projects are largely stalled (only the one I took to work has shown real progress) although Continue Reading →

Comfort Zone: Exit, this way

While I have greatly expanded my comfort zone in recent years, there are still a lot of things that exist well outside that zone. Traveling to another province to take in a two day music festival full of many hip-hop acts I’d never heard of before this weekend, well that was outside my zone. Luckily, Juggalos are a very welcoming group and that’s what this festival was: the Canadian Juggalo Weekend — the first of Continue Reading →

Giving Back

Sometime in my early forties, I decided it was time for me to give back to the community. Victoria is my home, and since I have neither the patience nor the stomach for politics at the municipal level, I felt like I should start looking for a board on which to sit. While I was researching various boards with openings (there are a couple on which I’d dearly love to sit once I move on Continue Reading →

Catching My Breath

The word I chose for this year is Complete and so far I did manage one of my big three goals for the first part of this year, “seeing the successful opening of the Victoria Tool Library” which launched on February 4th. Yesterday was Seedy Saturday, the event that initially pushed the tool library from a nascent idea into a group project in 2015. I came on board just after that, and stuck around to Continue Reading →

Just One Word

A lot of people I know choose a word or three words to use as a focus for their year ahead. Focus was the word I chose for myself in 2015 although I had to shift that focus a few times through that year. I didn’t choose a word in 2016, but instead made a promise to live “openly, authentically, and to the fullest” — and that promise persists. So, for 2017, one word or Continue Reading →

Diversifying My Media

There are a lot of complaints about the lack of diversity in film. In part, this is because there is a cycle of creation and consumption and, basically, we need to be putting our money where our mouth is — if we demand these films, then we need to support them. So this year, I am going to make an effort to see 52 movies by women — an average of one a week. I Continue Reading →

Life is Short

In the grand scheme of things, we get only a limited number of years to live out on this planet. My biggest take-away from Carl Sagan’s Cosmos all those years ago was just how brief human existence really is. My life thus far has included some great years and some shitty years and as much as 2016 has included some big downer moments on the global stage (yes, I am casting a stink-eye at the Continue Reading →

Twas the – Oh Damn, It’s Christmas

Twas the night before Christmas in my little flat That I share with my kid and a wee skittish cat I purchased new stockings and put up a tree But decor’s at a minimum this year for me I’ve no Christmas baking but plenty to eat I picked up a gingerbread kit to complete There’s also a fruitcake and chocolates galore Not skimping on calories, you can be sure. It still doesn’t feel like it’s Continue Reading →