Employment Epiphany

Those of you who have followed my blog for any amount of time know I have been struggling with the “what do I want to do with my life” question for some time; it’s why I helped to pull together the Purpose Party two and a half years ago. At that time, I was convinced that I still wanted to teach. However, several attempts at training and teaching and mentoring just didn’t feel right. I Continue Reading →

Paralysis of Choice

Sometimes people ask me how I could work for one employer for so long — I am an anomaly among my peers in that respect. I often answer frankly, inertia. It is easier to just stay put than to consider other options before me. The purpose party was supposed to help me get a grasp on what I REALLY wanted and unfortunately, I think I was not completely honest with myself. I felt at that Continue Reading →

Squirrels, Elephants, Mosquitoes, and Chupacabras

Last night I attended a session on Idea Management (with Mike Vardy). It reminded me of a lot of the goal management techniques I learned when we did the Purpose Party weekend (with Bruce Elkin), some of which I have been doing out of habit and some of which I had put aside. Thing is, I know lots about how to deal with those ideas & goals that I want to see happen, that are worth Continue Reading →

The Problem With Goals

The problem with goals is that if you don’t keep moving toward them, you can’t hope to attain them. During the Purpose Party, we worked on ways to bring our goals into focus, break down what was needed to get from now to there and start taking those steps. Bruce Elkin taught us some procedures that we could use to chunk big tasks into little tasks (and not think of them as tasks but as Continue Reading →

Burning the Boat

This morning I read Danielle LaPorte’s “burning question”  — what boat do you need to burn? — and I couldn’t come up with one. This may be because I’m still mooring all my boats, even the overturned catamaran. Wait, let me back up a bit. The question arises from a story, “about about a mythic band of magic-loving Irish folk. Feeling the call for newness, they would forge out to settle on a new island. Continue Reading →

Passion: that’s a funny word

This year which has seen me dive head-first into the Purpose Party and the personal exploration that goes with it, has brought a few terms into focus (the same way that when you buy a new car, suddenly you notice that half the city seems to be driving the same make and model), notably: purpose, action, and passion. Part of the reason I am seeing these words more often is the blogs and motivational speakers Continue Reading →


You’ve probably heard time and again, “it’s all about who you know” but I’ll bet you never considered that the most important person to know is yourself.  Really, that was the core of the Purpose Party — figuring out what the heck we each wanted out of life and figuring out how to do that. I just came across a great post by Scott Dinsmore (one of those links from an article that was posted Continue Reading →


I’ve said it many times and I’ll say it again, “I don’t hate my job, I just resent being tethered to a job.” — it’s the schedule, really. Each time my alarm goes off I think, “Hell. Here we go again.” I know that my body does not want to go to work because if I have to get up early to, say, leave for the ferry, it’s a whole lot easier to do; in Continue Reading →

Purpose Party Part One

Right about now you might be asking, “What the hell is a Purpose Party?” Luckily, I’m about to tell you. About 5 months ago (sometime in early December) a few of us started commiserating over the fact that our lives were not where we expected to be at our age (mid 30s to mid 40s). The word that kept coming up was “purpose” — something more than a career, more than a paycheque; something that included an idea Continue Reading →