Turning the Page

Two days ago, I made a big decision: I added a middle name to my facebook profile and became Cheryl Page DeWolfe. Within the first hour three people (including Kiddo) messaged me privately to ask about it. By the morning a few more had asked. I realized I could either keep answering one person at a time or I could just make a post about it. The responses tumbled in. Lots of “loves” and “likes” Continue Reading →

Can we ever separate the artist from their art?

More important than can we is the question should we? As more and more stories come out, fallout from the Weinstein story, and more people come forward in ways that survivors read as sympathetic to the aggressor, I find myself wondering, for example, will I ever be able to watch Matt Damon act and think, “damn that was a fine performance” or will my brain constantly be stuck on, “that douchecanoe totally made it easy Continue Reading →

Beerfest 2017: Coriander Edition

This was the first festival I attended in the rain — the rain was very welcome after an extensive dry spell so I wasn’t about to complain and I came mostly prepared; next time I will wear boots if it is wet though as my feet ended up very wet and chilled. Last year, the secret ingredient was mango — this year, it seemed to be coriander in many of the brews on offer. I Continue Reading →

Rebuilding my Routine

When I moved from the house to the apartment, my fitness regimen fell apart, even though I had worked so hard to build that habit by doing the fitness study in the early months of 2015. I made excuses for a while and then I just developed different habits. When Pokemon Go first launched in 2016 I was walking 5-10km per day now it gets me out of the house every day but I am Continue Reading →

Thrice Blessed

I never imagined how full my heart could be. I now have three amazing people in my life who each bring happiness, comfort, companionship, and so much more. Two have been a part of my life nearly 18 months now; the third is quite new — we connected the night I turned 48, a birthday surprise — and we are still shifting to find the balance point. Each of these amazing people have other connections Continue Reading →

Boxes and Labels

If you’ve known me for any length of time, you know I spend a lot of time in my own head, spinning my wheels over little details of labels and boxes – I am a person who needs such things to better understand myself and my relation to others. When people say “labels are meaningless” I feel intense degrees of internal panic. One personal example, last year in my birthday post I talked about identifying Continue Reading →

Who Do I Think I Am?

Dating and the Confident Girl Recently, I caved to my curiosity and installed Tinder on my phone, just to see “how bad can this really be?” — as it turns out, I quite like the interface, and it wasn’t too difficult to figure out some of the flaws (fake accounts and time-wasters) as well as the perks (just unmatch and POOF gone). But, yet again, here I was faced with writing yet another bio. Who Continue Reading →

Goodbye Dale

It’s been a week now and I still can’t really believe it. My brother had a heart attack on the 10th of May and while his heart was repaired, complications ultimately led to his death. I’ve thought about a lot of deaths — anticipating my parents’, imagining the loss of friends, considering my spouse’s when I was married, even thinking about my own. Of all the deaths I’ve ever considered, Dale’s was one scenario I Continue Reading →

Slowgress

I realized today that my YearOfYes hit the one year mark last month and I need to stop looking for things to do. The start of this year has been especially top-heavy with commitments and I am wearing out. Meanwhile, my word of the year is “complete” and I look around to see very little actually completed. My knitting projects are largely stalled (only the one I took to work has shown real progress) although Continue Reading →

Comfort Zone: Exit, this way

While I have greatly expanded my comfort zone in recent years, there are still a lot of things that exist well outside that zone. Traveling to another province to take in a two day music festival full of many hip-hop acts I’d never heard of before this weekend, well that was outside my zone. Luckily, Juggalos are a very welcoming group and that’s what this festival was: the Canadian Juggalo Weekend — the first of Continue Reading →